Dear youโฆyou, whoโs spending Christmas alone, itโs not so bad.
For most people, Christmas is all about spending time with family and loved ones. But to those who choose to be alone, itโs fine. But donโt kid yourself that itโs not cold and quiet because it also is, but thatโs fine too.
Iโm alone on Christmas day because I left home. Although, โhomeโ can mean differently to everyone. It can be a friend, a lover, or a family member. And leaving a home can get sad and scary.
These feelings get stronger on days like this. But as the adage goes, being alone doesnโt have to be lonely. I made the decision to leave and looking at the bigger picture now, I could say that itโs the best decision Iโve ever made.
Cold is the absence of heatโฆ Iโm talking about the rage and anger in your heart thatโs been keeping you on fire. How long did you keep it in? Once you leave a โhome,โ you will be free from toxic relationships that have been weighing you down. To be honest, it feelsโฆ maybe, cold; but mostly, light.
That cool feeling is actually the feeling of a breath of fresh air brushing through your skinโthatโs what freedom feels like. Like a breeze from an empty space that wishes to be filled with new stuff, because an empty room is also an opportunity to start anew. So feel it. Accept it. And when new things, people, or experiences come in, be open to letting them in.
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Quiet, on the other hand, is the sound of peace. The peace that comes with our freedom from never-ending arguments, random anxiety attacks, and just all the unnecessary noise that keeps us from living our lives to the fullest. I learned that itโs when youโre alone that you can truly take charge of your own life. Youโll be able to make your own decisions like how you want to wake up in the morning and how you want to spend your evenings. And thatโs when youโll realize who you really areโby defining what matters to you the most.
To those who are spending Christmas alone for the first time this year, thereโs no need to be sad and scared. Silence is not scary. In fact, silence gives you the chance to hear what your heart truly wants. Without the negativity that clouds your thoughts, what is your heart telling you? Listen to it. Follow it. When youโve found clarity in peace, you’ll be brave enough to conquer anything.
So stop second-guessing your decision to leave, and start enjoying your own company instead. Itโs been two years since I made that decision and Iโve never regretted it ever since. Back then, I believed it was the best course of action and Iโve worked hard to prove myself right. Trust that you will too, at your own time.
Just remember: on cold and quiet days like this, hang tight. Start cozying up to new beginnings, and listen to your heart and let it guide you.
For most people, Christmas is all about spending time with family and loved ones. But to those who donโt have one at the moment, itโs okay. Because itโs better to spend it alone than in chaos; and for as long as we live, we can keep on working on how we want to spend our future Christmases.
Gizelle Caoile tells stories through writing and video. Her friends call her "G" because she's GAME for 'almost' everything! She loves experiencing and learning new things, but most of all she loves to have fun. Find her on Instagram @gizellecaoile โจ
To Those Who Choose to Be Alone on Christmas
Dear youโฆyou, whoโs spending Christmas alone, itโs not so bad.
For most people, Christmas is all about spending time with family and loved ones. But to those who choose to be alone, itโs fine. But donโt kid yourself that itโs not cold and quiet because it also is, but thatโs fine too.
Iโm alone on Christmas day because I left home. Although, โhomeโ can mean differently to everyone. It can be a friend, a lover, or a family member. And leaving a home can get sad and scary.
(Also read: How to Care For Your Mental Health This Holiday Season)
These feelings get stronger on days like this. But as the adage goes, being alone doesnโt have to be lonely. I made the decision to leave and looking at the bigger picture now, I could say that itโs the best decision Iโve ever made.
Cold is the absence of heatโฆ Iโm talking about the rage and anger in your heart thatโs been keeping you on fire. How long did you keep it in? Once you leave a โhome,โ you will be free from toxic relationships that have been weighing you down. To be honest, it feelsโฆ maybe, cold; but mostly, light.
That cool feeling is actually the feeling of a breath of fresh air brushing through your skinโthatโs what freedom feels like. Like a breeze from an empty space that wishes to be filled with new stuff, because an empty room is also an opportunity to start anew. So feel it. Accept it. And when new things, people, or experiences come in, be open to letting them in.
Photo: Pexels
Quiet, on the other hand, is the sound of peace. The peace that comes with our freedom from never-ending arguments, random anxiety attacks, and just all the unnecessary noise that keeps us from living our lives to the fullest. I learned that itโs when youโre alone that you can truly take charge of your own life. Youโll be able to make your own decisions like how you want to wake up in the morning and how you want to spend your evenings. And thatโs when youโll realize who you really areโby defining what matters to you the most.
To those who are spending Christmas alone for the first time this year, thereโs no need to be sad and scared. Silence is not scary. In fact, silence gives you the chance to hear what your heart truly wants. Without the negativity that clouds your thoughts, what is your heart telling you? Listen to it. Follow it. When youโve found clarity in peace, you’ll be brave enough to conquer anything.
(Also read: If you ever feel like giving up on life, read this.)
So stop second-guessing your decision to leave, and start enjoying your own company instead. Itโs been two years since I made that decision and Iโve never regretted it ever since. Back then, I believed it was the best course of action and Iโve worked hard to prove myself right. Trust that you will too, at your own time.
Just remember: on cold and quiet days like this, hang tight. Start cozying up to new beginnings, and listen to your heart and let it guide you.
For most people, Christmas is all about spending time with family and loved ones. But to those who donโt have one at the moment, itโs okay. Because itโs better to spend it alone than in chaos; and for as long as we live, we can keep on working on how we want to spend our future Christmases.
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About The Author
Gizelle Caoile tells stories through writing and video. Her friends call her "G" because she's GAME for 'almost' everything! She loves experiencing and learning new things, but most of all she loves to have fun. Find her on Instagram @gizellecaoile โจ
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