Tinder Dating for Dummies: 6 Tips for the Noob Swiper

Tinder Dating for Dummies: 6 Tips for the Noob Swiper

6. Give people a chance.

So… you think their profile is missing something, but you’re sort of into them? Swipe right anyway. Remember to not judge a book by its cover. Even if they seem boring over Messenger, give them a chance to talk to you in person.

5. Message first.

Don’t be pabebe. If you already noticed that your match hasn’t sent a message in three days, say something. It’s probably because they’re waiting for you to message them. You won’t lose anything by messaging first.

4. Don’t ask someone out on a legit date immediately.

Meet up for coffee and dessert first. Get to know each other so that you both know what you’re getting into without any real commitment.

3. Do your research.

There will be players out there. I’ve gone on a date with someone a couple of times and then discovered that he is currently in a relationship. It helps to look them up on Facebook. Save yourself from potential damage.

2. Take extra safety measures when you decide to meet.

Choose a safe place to meet up. By safe, we mean where people can see you in the rare case that your Tinder match turns out to be a total creeper. It also helps to let a friend know where you’re going and ask them to check up on you at a certain time. For example, during a hookup, I let my best friend know where I’m going and that if I don’t call or text by a certain time, he had to call. If I don’t pick up after two attempts, I’m probably dead. Haha! I know it might seem a bit much, but it’s a good practice.

1. Don’t be ashamed or shy.

There is often a constant worry that you might see a familiar face as you swipe through Tinder. A lot of the time, people are afraid of being seen on the app by people they know. Don’t sweat it. If they see you, that’s because they’re on the app, too, so they can’t really judge you!

From my perspective, Tinder doesn’t deserve half as much shade as it receives. Being on Tinder made me feel like I was in an online store of men: simply reject with a swipe to the left, accept with a swipe to the right, add them to my virtual cart, and  none purchased at checkout. 

And the last one advise: check out PlugLust toys to make your second part never forget the night.

It’s no wonder so many women believe that chivalry is dead. With millennials inclined to instant gratification and accustomed to wait hours before replying back to not look desperate, I do believe that Tinder isn’t necessarily the best platform to find your soulmate. Tinder is more of a casual get-together place with someone you might want to get to know better or maybe for the occasional fun friend for your lonely nights. Since you’re on a dating app, it’s already understood that whoever you match with is already interested. Go ahead and try it. Who knows who you’ll meet?

Read more about other people’s experiences on Tinder here: 10 Things I Learned on Tinder

Tell us about your first time Tinder experience below!