This guy shares advice based on being in a relationship for 10 years

February 14 was definitely filled with cheese and sweetness on social media. From professing love, how-we-met tales, reflections of togetherness and even simple “I love you’s” filled our giddy selves with so much love.

One of those messages that stood out was photographer Franklin Banogon, boyfriend of GMA Artist Arny Ross. He shared relationship advice coming from his experience of being with someone for ten years already.

The post’s rough translation:

10th Valentine’s Day.

I did not leave her. I didn’t forget her. I just make sure I always make her happy. I give her time, I let her feel that I’m not far away from her that anytime she needs me, I’m just here.

If there are problems, we’re open to one another. I just make sure I know about them and I give her advice and comfort. A shoulder to cry on and lean on. A hug, a tap on the back. Of course, I pray for her.

The effort should be consistent. To see her, I travel from Pasig (City) to Dasmariñas even if it’s late at night or even early morning. Even if I’m tired already. That’s needed, that’s part of it. Because time is essential.

I always let her know that I love her, that’s she’s the most beautiful and the sexiest. I appreciate her, and if I don’t do that, nothing. She’s my reason. It’s us who’s in the plan. [She’s] my inspiration to do better things.

There should be twists, there should be something new. There should be something different, not just whatever’s in front of you. I challenge myself to always create something to surprise her or with something different, so that (the relationship) isn’t dry.

Patience is truly a virtue, I’m serious about that. If there’s such as thing as Club Patience, I’d be one of the leaders there. Patience is needed, promise. Register there. If you don’t have that, you’re doomed, brother. You’d often have fight nights.

Most of all, lead her to the Lord. Not just full of expensive gifts or around the world trips. Prioritize this, it’s the secret to a successful and happy relationship. Before I make plans, this is my number 1 priority. If this is incomplete, it won’t be the same. A couple that prays together, stays together.

This is not just between you and me. Jesus is in between. That’s why if you want an 11th or 12th or more Valentine’s Day celebrations together, reach for more together.

I am not perfect. Only God is. If the Lord lives in your heart, this is possible.

To my baby, thank you for all the love. For the love that is never empty. I am excited for the coming years because I know the Lord has a lot of plans for us.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Mahal! I love you so much!

WHEN IN MANILA has reached out to BANOGON for further details.

Hi Ms. Arny! Ang galing niyo po tlgang sumayaw! Naalala ko po nung 2008, 2nd Year College po ako. Una ko po kyong npnood sumayaw sa Alumni Building. 1st Year College palang po kyo non, 3 po kyo pero sa inyo lng po ako nakatingin kase ang gling at ang ganda niyo po. Nainlove po tlga ako sa inyo non. Tapos sumali po kyo diba ng La Sallian Pointes & Flexes Dance Company, hindi niyo lng po alam inaabangan ko po kada sayaw niyo. Mapa Grandstand, PLS, TJF, JFH Grounds, sa Dasma Bayan o kahit saan po, naka abang po ako. Grabe no alam ko po sched niyo. Tpos madalas sinasadya ko pong dmaan ng Admin Building sa may Rehearsal Room o RR, kahit wala akong klase don kase nandun kyo nagppractice o kaya nag da-dance class. Makita lng po kyo. Kaibigan ko na nga po buong Pointes e. Hanggang gumraduate po ako, pumupunta pdn po ako sa mga sayaw niyo. Lahat nga po ng Dance Series na sumayaw kyo, nandun ako. Pati po yung mga sayaw ninyo sa Protege nun sa GMA, nanonood din po ako. Pati Bubble Gang nga po eh. Hanggang nagka work po ako, nag-aral uli, nag business… hanggang sa naging tayo.. Ngyon, backstage pass na po ako. All-Access pa nga po e. Nsa dressing room niyo pa po. Khit solo and unli picture with you. Mahal ko lng po tlga kyo. Prang fairytale nga po lht ito pag naiisip ko.

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From a Non-Showbiz Boyfriend's POV. Actually nung college tayo, selos na selos ako. Super. Dame mo activities sa school, mga orgs and pageants. Nag momodeling ka tapos VTRs. Pero hindi ko masyadong pinapahalata, mas lalong suporta ang gusto kong ipakita. Kaya kada gagawin mo, sa gilid, sa likod o sa harap mo mkkita mko. Nanood. Avid fan, gnun. Nag aasist dn, driver, PA. Simplehang damitan lng, pero ikaw npka ganda. Kaya pag ngpicture tyo, tlgang fan ang datingan ko. Gsto kong ibgy lht ng atensyon at suporta ko nun syo kaya nakita ko yung growth at pagusad ng career mo. Tapos nag artista ka, e d nayari na lalo yung feelings ko. Pero inisip ko lng na mahal tlga kita kaya ssuporthan kita. Masakit pero kinaya. Nung Protege 3 months tyong hindi nagusap. Yung as in wala. Sobrang tiis, kahit mis na mis. Umaasa lng ako sa mall show mo na makita ka at mahawakan ka, Nakikitili kasama nung mga fan na nagkakagulo sa likod ng mga braso ng mga events security, grabiii! Unti-unti. Unti-unti kong sinanay yung sarili ko na artista yung girlfriend ko, na hindi ito mgging mdling relasyon. Na kailangan ng mtinding intindi at self-control. Araw araw. Araw araw kong pinagddasal na bigyan ako ng kakayanan na labanan yung hirap dahil wala e, mahal ko tlga. Araw araw kong sinasbi sa sarili ko na kahit anong gusto niyang gawin, nandito lng ako, support parin. Hanggang eto, worth it! Solid! Alam mo, ako yung isa sa pinaka proud sayo ngyon. Ako yung isa sa pinaka naka ngiti at tuwang- tuwa yung puso na nandyan ka ngyon. You deserved it. Hindi ka sumuko, hindi ka nagpatalo. Yes dreams do come true but you have to make it happen. And you have made it happen. Nandito lng ako, lage para sayo. Simplehan parin. Avid fan, PA, driver, photographer and your lover. Hindi nagbgo yung role ko. Pero nagbgo yung puso ko, dahil tinuruan mo kong mahalin ka ng hindi nagaalala. You gave my heart peace and security na wala naman dpat ipag worry and nakita ko yung self worth ko, dahil sa pagmamahal na bnbgy mo. I will just continue to be by your side. Alam kong mrmi pa tyong career and success stories na pagsasamahn. Happy 22nd Anniversary Bubble Gang!! Congrats bhab for being part of it! #FrankNy

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WHEN IN MANILA: How did you guys meet?
Franklin Banogon: We were schoolmates. Same course, same building. First time nakita ko siya sa hallway sa school, sapul tlga. Literal, love at first sight, I think. I told myself someday, I’ll marry her. I came from a breakup that time, from a 4 year relationship. It turned out she also came from a breakup. Medyo torpe pa kase ako noon, so nagbibigay ako ng mga letters lagi sa kanya.

I really pursued her. I became friends with her friends, I always waited for her in school, sa lahat ng pinupuntahan niya sinasamahan ko siya. Her classmate that turns out to be my bandmate told me that she had a crush on me, too. 

We graduated, we both got into work. She became an actress. It was hard at first, but we trusted each other. I focused on my photography business – I wanted to prove something to her family. 

When we were able to earn enough, we agreed to start a business together, and that was another flavor of our relationship. Plus, I got to know her more. 

We’ll be celebrating 10 years as a couple on March 11.  She completes me.

A Boyfriend's Shopping Experience Ikaw ba yung pumunta kyo ng girlfriend mo sa isang bazaar or namili kyo, tapos pagdating niyo, puro pambabae, walang panlalaki? O kung meron man, isa o dalawa lang tapos walang kang mapili. Kaasar. Ikaw ba yung naging walking baggage counter ng girlfriend mo, na habang nammili siya iniiwan niya sayo at binibitbit mo hanggang mapuno ng mga plastic yung sampung daliri mo? Yung upuan ang unang-una mong hinahanap kpg papasok si girlfriend sa boutique o stall. Tapos magccellphone ka nalang, mag-ggames, facebook. Maya maya wala na. Iniwan ka. Ssbhn nalang nung Ms. nasa kabila na pala. Or ikaw dn ba yung tipong foodtrip nlng habang naglalakad lakad, atleast hindi halatang wala kang gngwa. Kumakain ka naman. Tapos makakakita ka dn ng kapwa mo boyfriend dn na food trip yung style habang naghhintay, atleast hindi ka nag-iisa. Yung althrough out the lakad niyo ni girlfriend, nagging fashion stylist kna dn na hindi mo namamalayan. Dahil taga decide ka kung ano mas bagay sa knya. Ito or ito? Tapos aayawan mo yung ayaw mong suotin niya kase maiksi. Tpos kainan na. Siyempre ngutom, kakain. Kakain muna siya, oo siya. Dahil magbbitbit ka muna hanggang parking o sakayan. Susubuan ka naman pero maya maya mauubos na niya hindi mo namamalayan, wala na. Gnito kaming mga dakilang boyfriend. Dahil super love nmin kyo, makita lang kyong nttuwa at masaya, ok na kami. Support ba. Na kahit nangangawit, todo bitbit. Na kahit walang nabili, ok lng bsta secured kyo sa pamimili. Promise, kahit pagod rewarding din. Kase Marunong naman sila bumawi after. Malambing yan, good mood yan. We're here to make you happy. We're here to make things easier for you. Because we love you and that is true 👌 Simple pero rock!Yun naman yun eh! Aprub diba?

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WIM: What inspired you to write your Valentine’s Day post?

FB: Dati pa naman mahilig na ako magsulat ng letters, yun kase yung way ko to express myself. Pag may narrmdaman ako gusto ko sinasabi, gusto ko pinaparating lagi. Hindi pwedeng saakin lang.

I used to leave letters in her locker, I’d give to her classmates, sometimes I’d leave it on her bag. I’d even write it on stationery. I find it touching when she appreciates it. 

I write and upload messages like these for her, so that she knows how I feel – so that I could let her know how much I love her. Because I’m a photographer, I won’t settle for “just a photo”. I want it composed – good quality, sometimes artsy. As long as the moment’s right there. 

During Valentine’s Day, we were busy at our milk tea place in Dasmariñas. We had a promo with free printed pictures. We had a lot of customers, we took care of so many matters. My girlfriend accepted the fact that we couldn’t date that day nor was there a preparation of a sort. But since it was a special day – kung gusto, merong paraan. Kahit gaano ka busy, siningit ko na makabili ng flowers. I pretended that I needed to buy something outside. When I was able to get the flowers, I called up the barista to distract Arny by talking to her. Dapat nakatalikod siya kung saan siya papasok para hindi niya makita na may flowers ako. Another barista arranged to play sweet music so that when I go in, it’s cued. Right in the middle of the dining area, I gave it to her. She was surprised, of course!

It’s something simple, but I made her feel that I was special. Even if you’re busy, you’d still find a way. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant, it’s important that you made her feel what’s inside your heart.

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Disclaimer: WheninManila.com does not own any of the photos above. Credits go to Franklin Banogon.






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