The words “Don’t be a Suman” seem to be trending today on Erwan Heussaff’s Instagram post after he shared with his followers how excited he was to finally see his wife Anne Curtis-Smith after being apart for quite some time. “Excited to see this lady today. We haven’t seen each other in 23 days!” he writes.
Anne had been traveling around for a few weeks, first for her concert tour in Canada, then to Albay to help a couple’s dream wedding come true through her Dream Machine Foundation, and finally to her hometown in Australia to surprise her mom post-surgery.
Erwan further addresses concerns about the two not being together constantly in his lengthy caption, jokingly citing a rule from the Bullied Husbands Club Handbook. “I always get messages about why we’re not constantly together. It’s because Rule #78 of the #bulliedhusbandsclub handbooks states that serious couples need to be able to support each other regardless of distance and schedules.”
In all seriousness, he talks about how every couple must let each other pursue their own passions and be supportive to each other in their individual journeys to personal and career growth. “Both people in a relationship need to be able to grow and pursue their careers, all while being each other’s cheerleaders. I’ve seen way too many toxic relationships where people end up blaming the other party for missed opportunities.”
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Erwan then calls out toxic masculinity by reminding them not to feel threatened by the success of their girlfriends or wives. “Macho men, your wife deserves to chase their dreams as much as you do. Ladies, vice versa. Just make time and be present, whenever you can.”
But what got the most attention from his post was his simple food analogy on how couples should be. “Food analogy: be like basmati rice grains, fluffy and free. Don’t be a Suman.”
People have started tagging their partners in his post with #dontbeasuman, while giving their own food-related analogy for their own relationships.
What do you say about Erwan’s advice?
