In this modern age of finding your one true love, you’d have to equip yourself with a huge amount of confidence, courage, and patience. Because, believe me, it will confuse you. A LOT. He can say “yes” and that might mean slightly “no”. The rules will change every second and you will be tired trying to keep up on what’s right, what’s wrong, and what is in between. But don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should stop trying. I just thought you should know about these three common lines in dating:
“There’s something about you. You’re different.”
Ahhh. It warms your heart that someone actually knows you’re different. Because you know you’re different. You’re just waiting for someone to notice and you like the fact that he understands you. But, you see, he may think you’re different but that doesn’t really mean he likes you. Nope, you can’t assume that. It will be your fault in the end if you assume that it meant something. I suggest you brush that off because, in this game, the person who cares less wins.
“Let’s just see what time has in store for the both of us.”
There you go, he seems like he’s really trying. At this point you’re arguing with yourself whether or not this is worth a try. This statement can mean differently for both of you, though. He could want to date ten more “different” girls and he’s trying to keep as many as he could. And that’s fine. I mean, it’s a modern day of dating. It should be fine when he’s trying to see for himself if you are really the “different” he’s looking for and he can only find that out by comparing you with others. (Not sarcastic.) But since you see potential in him, you will fall one step closer the floor. You might be already looking forward to what really is in store for both of you. But just a reminder: everything you do should seem like you didn’t think about it too much. It makes the game more exciting!
“I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
Okay. If you’re in the modern dating scene you should hear this at least more than thrice. FOR SURE. You have two options: you can reply “Then what the fuck are you looking for?” Or be nice and pretend like that didn’t bother you at all. Because I want to remind you again: YOU SHOULD NOT CARE TOO MUCH OR YOU LOSE.
“It’s not you, it’s me,”
Classic! It’s not like this line has never been used in movies. It’s not like the last two guys you’ve dated didn’t say the exact same phrase. Very convenient statement that needs no explaining from his end. Really? After all that? Here, let me tell you this: let’s all stop being “nice” and start being honest. No matter how you give excuses for him, he owes you an explanation. It will hurt like a bitch to hear the truth, but at least it will not leave you wondering for the next three months why it never worked out.
Life is too simple to complicate. I know this game will get complicated day by day. but seriously, no matter how many times your heart gets broken (small time or big time) always remember to charge it to experience. You will get your heart broken a few more times than you expected and that’s okay. It’s okay because he surely made you smile for a little while. So take the memories with you, but move on. After all, you wouldn’t know what you like or don’t like until you keep on trying. And when the right person comes, it will be worth it. I promise.