My standards when it comes to dating have become so low. I’ve seriously fallen in love with guys who simply greet me good morning every day. And I know people who have also fallen for individuals who do things that may seem inconsequential for many. Friends, let me tell you about the bare minimum.
The bare minimum are things people claim are relationship goals but are stuff that should be mandatory. This may include asking about your day, remembering the things you like, and actually showing they care for you. For some weird reason, these basic moves have become something we dream of. Why are they goals? Shouldn’t they be the standard?
First off, why do people fall for the bare minimum? Why are we happy to settle for pwede na and not what we truly deserve?
We think it’s because people are too lazy to make the effort to date. Let’s admit it. Dating is a tedious process and we have to kiss dozens of frogs before we meet someone who is somewhat tolerable. Afraid of having to meet more frogs, we tend to settle for someone who is…. okay.
— ?TheBronzeBombshell? (@eternalbeauti) November 22, 2017
You can’t blame them for settling because life is so hard. We have to deal with the stresses of work and school, traffic, and the daily inconveniences of living in the Philippines. We’re always tired. Do we really want to have to deal with dating? It’s time-consuming, frustrating, and expensive.
The thing is, life isn’t easy. The things worth having take work and that includes finding the right partner for us. If it means having to go through a lot of bad dates, then so be it. It will be worth the wait.
Boy: shows basic human respect for a woman
bare minimum twitter: Where Y’all Finding These Men???? ????????????????????????????????????????
— ✩ space cowgirl ✩ (@aliengrl33) November 19, 2017
So how can we avoid this dreaded bare minimum? The first thing we need to do is to know our worth. Are you the type of person who deserves just the basics, or someone who needs a partner who can give them all they’re wishing for? If you know your worth, you will attract people who will see it, too.
Going with that, it’s also time to raise your standards. Stop dating people who are pwede na and continuously look for people who deserve your time and attention. It’s not going to be easy and it’s going to take time, but the wait and effort will be worth it.
Of course, we’re not saying we shouldn’t be grateful for the little things our partners do for us. We appreciate their sweet gestures but if we consider daily good morning texts as something to aspire for instead of bigger stuff like emotional security, loyalty, and unconditional love, then maybe it’s time to rethink our #relationshipgoals.