There’s a soul-crushing feeling that accompanies knowing that your ex blocked you somewhere. Mobile number, Facebook, Twitter, doesn’t matter. There was this deliberate action of wanting to not see you or hear from you and they took the time to go to your profile, click on the drop-down menu, and block you. It wasn’t as if it was accidental (I don’t believe in “oh must’ve done it by accident”). They did it on purpose. They don’t want to hear from you or see you. And good or bad terms, that’s a crappy feeling.
But should you be sad if your ex blocks you? After all, the relationship is over, things have ended. Unless you did something really terrible to them, most people would think it a no big deal kind of thing because it’s over. But you end up feeling sad anyway. Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s totally okay to be sad if your ex blocks you. Given that you’re not in a weird situation where they’ve got a reason to hold a grudge, it’s a move that feels so unfair because maybe you wanted to be friends or you haven’t even done or said anything to them lately so it feels so out of the blue.
Don’t worry, it really does suck. It’s not just in your head. Because maybe you guys were trying to be mature about the failed relationship and now it feels like they’re taking the easy way out completely unprovoked. You’re going to ask yourself: “wtf did I do now???” and it’ll feel awful. But if you truly haven’t done anything, don’t blame yourself. Maybe it’s insecurity on their part or a want for space without the courage to ask for it–that’s not on you. That’s a cowardly way out and it hurts you–that’s not fair to you. Especially as someone they once considered someone special.
You and this person have history, you shared a lot of yourselves with each other and for them to try and erase you is like them trying to ignore that history. Which hurts because it’s like they refuse to acknowledge you were in their life. And being ignored by someone you thought was really special to you once upon a time can really sting.
It’s okay to be sad if your ex blocks you because they’re approaching your existence as something they can just toss away and not have to interact with again if they don’t see you on their timeline. And that sucks. There are those out there who are a little more self-assured who will walk away from this kind of situation completely unscathed but if you don’t, it’s not shameful or embarrassing. This is someone who, at some point, became your best friend, your closest confidante, and maybe was someone you really loved. And to be blocked without explanation? It’s a crappy feeling.
But don’t forget to rise up above it. If they don’t want to explain, maybe they’re too afraid to, and that’s not on you. If they did it because they were too afraid, it’s not your fault. You keep your head up high even if you cry about it, we believe in you. <3
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