Upon writing this, I have stripped off more of my playgirl masks and have been aligning my thoughts, words and actions with who i truly am at my core(Don’t wanna be a playah no more). Reading this now makes me cringe, but anyways, here it goes:
After a couple of heartbreaks, I started reading psychology on attraction, relationships, human dynamics, pick up arts, seduction, etc., and applied and field-tested everything I learned and created my own methods through the years. Whatever I learned has brought me a lot of dating fun and a few manageable trouble.
Here is one of them:
The art of making the first move to make him approach you, thinking it was his idea
A Playgirl Technique that good girls can use to their advantage is the art of making the first covert move to make him approach you, thinking that the approach was his idea. This is not something that I just invented. In fact, the clever females from our distant past practiced this lost art as well. During the Victorian era, when a woman fancied a man, she’d drop her handkerchief somewhere close enough for the man to notice and fetch, so that he’d have a reason to approach and talk to her. Even some scientists claim that there are evidences that suggest that cave women traveled further and sought out sexual partners.
In the modern days, there are various ways to do this. One example is by looking at a man you like from afar, exchanging eye contact with him for 3 seconds, flashing a flirty-friendly smile, flipping your hair and looking away.
To the more courageous guys, this is enough to get him to approach. But for guys with more debilitating AA (Approach Anxiety), after about a minute, repeat the move, but this time open your mouth and pretend to say something. If he makes facial or hand motions that hint a bit of confusion and seem to ask “What?”, invite him over with a wave of your hand or that index finger gesture that signals for someone to come over. When a person is confused, it is easier to lead them to do what you ask them to do. Confusing a person is a technique that even “budol-budol” gangs and other con artists use to lead victims to do something they want them to do.
When he approaches, say something interesting, unique, playful and engaging. Say something like “My girlfriend and I were having a bet on what color your eyes (or shirt or shoes) are. She said blue, and I insisted on green. Who do you say won?” Say it in a confident, feminine and playful tone. Such interaction is very exciting for men and, once you get a hang of it, will be for you as well. Or you can say “My girlfriend and I were having a bet on whether that other guy in blue that you are with is your brother or just your friend. She bets that you guys are brothers because you’re both cute and I said just because you’re both cute doesn’t necessarily mean you’re brothers. Please tell me you’re just friends? Otherwise I have to buy her a drink.”
