“The thing about being single is you should cherish it; because in a week or a lifetime of being alone, you may only get one moment. One moment when you’re not tied up in a relationship with anyone – a parent, a pet, a sibling, a friend. One moment when you stand on your own – really, truly single.” – How to be Single movie
I was on my way from work one Friday night when suddenly, I realized how different things seemed compared to last year. For instance, I’m looking at these huge and bright Christmas lanterns through the window of a UV Express to Cavite instead of the tall, skyscrapers lined up along Sheik Zayed Road in Dubai. A year has gone by since I decided to come back. A lot has changed except for one thing – I’m still single.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m happily single and I don’t have a black heart either. It’s not even that big a deal but there are just those seasons which make it harder to fly solo than others, like December. Raise your hand if you’re one of us!
A friend of mine asked, “Is there a right way to be single during this season? Well, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to it. However, there are a lot of reasons why you don’t have to be part of a couple to enjoy it. In case you’re feeling the SSS (Single Sadness Syndrome) right now, here are some ways to get through this “most wonderful time of the year” with your head held up high and a smile on your face. You’re welcome!
5. Have Something to Look Forward To
Instead of dwelling on the things that didn’t work out this year, think about the new year ahead of you. It’s 2018! Well, almost. Imagine how you would like to improve yourself in the year ahead – be it through exploring places you’ve never been before, mastering a new sport or starting that business you’ve been saving for. So, if you’re feeling a little “meh” about your relationship status this year, remember how much freedom being single gives you. Savor it while it lasts.
4. Open your Eyes to the Endless Possibilities Around You
Just recently, I attended a workshop where each of the attendees was asked the question: “What’s your superpower?” One woman raised her hand and funnily answered, “I’m single! That’s my superpower.” Everyone laughed. I must admit it was funny and so true that it hurts.
Being single myself, I think our real superpower comes from being able to be happy on our own. It allows us to focus on ourselves, take risks and learn how to grow without the limitations of being in a relationship. There are days when meeting someone just seems impossible especially in this age of digital dating. But guess what? With our strong faith and undeniable patience – the Wonder Woman in us just knows it’s all good.
3. Little Treats Matter Especially the Ones for Yourself
You can’t give what you don’t have. Self-love can be a bit overrated nowadays but admit it, it’s the mother of all kindness. If you don’t love and care about yourself, who else will? Take some extra time this month to treat and pamper yourself. Book a spontaneous trip with your best friend, get a massage or plan a night out with colleagues. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. If it puts a smile on your face, that’s more than enough.
2. Invite Your Family or Friends for A Yearly Holiday Tradition
Relationships may come and go, but family and friends will stay by your side no matter what time of the year it is. Take it upon yourself to host a gathering where you can spend time with them. There’s no better time than now to reunite and reconnect with the people closest and dearest to you. As the old saying goes, “all you need is love” – with or without a plus one.
1. Do Something to Give Back
Gratefulness can go a long way. Contrary to what other people might say, being single is a blessing and not a curse. C’mon it’s not the end of the world! Despite the colder December nights, you still have a few good reasons to be thankful for this season. So why not give back?
Clean out your closet or sort out your old books and donate them. If you’re planning to get rid of the old to make way for the new, there’s no better time than now. After all, it’s the season of giving and sharing.
Before you sing “All by Myself” ala Bridget Jones, remind yourself of all the things and people you have in your life now. Dress up, put on some holiday red lipstick, be positive and meet new people. More importantly, be happy. Because when you’re happy from within, the more that happiness attracts others and sooner or later the right person.
So, what are you waiting for? Strut to Beyonce’s Single Ladies, get out there and make the most out of this holiday season. You got this girl!
Do you have any personal tips to share with our single pals during this holiday season? Share and comment below.