Love advice I got from my Grab drivers

While I think myself a very private person when it comes to people I have to interact with often, I am a serial oversharer with people I believe I’ll never meet again. It’s just so easy being able to spill everything to someone you never have to awkwardly wave to again. Also, I’m a cryer.

I usually don’t share unless prompted or unless I’m really brimming over with emotion. But when I start, it’s hard to stop. And while I have a hard time sharing with people I consider acquaintances, strangers are a little easier. So here are the moments I shared a little too much with my drivers and what they told me.

1. “Iyak lang po kayo, ma’am. Pero dapat, unti-unti, mababawas ang pag-iyak mo.”

WHEN: Sometime in February 2018, 1 or 2 AM

WHERE: A friend’s house to home

WHY WAS I CRYING: My crush just rejected me and I entered the car crying and half-drunk

WHAT HE SAID:

Sige, ma’am, labas niyo lang po yung iyak niyo. Umiyak lang po kayo kasi fresh na fresh po lang ‘yan. Hindi mo rin matitigil ‘yan. Hayaan mo na i-feel mo yung sakit. Iyak lang po kayo, ma’am. Pero dapat, unti-unti, mababawas ang pag-iyak mo. Kinabukasan, hindi kasing-lakas. At yung araw na susunod, dapat bawas na rin. Para hindi puro sakit–gagaan din ‘yan.

WHAT I SAID: I just cried harder ’til I got home.

2. “Kung mahal mo siya, ‘di mo siya pipilitin. Mahalin mo muna yung sarili mo.”

WHEN: Sometime in February 2018, 12 PM

WHERE: Home to an event in Cubao

WHY WAS I CRYING: Not crying, to be fair, but quite emotional and teary because I was thinking about the same crush turning me down and opened up when kuya noticed I was wiping at my eyes and started to complain about how my crush didn’t love me back even if it seemed like things were going well

WHAT HE SAID:

Wala ka nang magagawa di ba, ma’am? Kahit na parang gusto niya sa una, wala ka nang magagawa kung nawala ‘yun. Kung mahal mo siya, ‘di mo siya pipilitin. Mahalin mo muna yung sarili mo. Kasi kung ‘di ka niya mamahalin, sinong magmamahal sa’yo? Ikaw pa rin.

WHAT I SAID: I cried.

3. “Meron pang iba. Hindi lang siya ang mamahalin mo.”

WHEN: Start of March 2018, the moving on phase, 8 PM

WHERE: Dragging myself out of the house to meet a friend in Greenhills

WHY WAS I CRYING: Trying to move on and get out of the house more

WHAT HE SAID:

Naku, ma’am. Kaming mga lalaki… Magulo kami! Hehe, sa totoo! Pero, ma’am, huwag kang sumuko. Meron pang iba. Hindi lang siya ang mamahalin mo. ‘Di ka naman pangit, ma’am, sigurado ako na next month o kahit nga next week meron ka nang manliligaw ulit. Promise.

WHAT I SAID: Salamat, kuya.

4. “Dahan-dahan lang, ma’am. Baka pa-sweet lang siya ngayon. Siguraduhin mo na aalagaan ka niya.”

WHEN: June 2018, a new crush

WHERE: BGC to home

WHY WAS I CRYING: Not crying, more kilig because of a guy who I was sort of crushing on and was being sweet to me but I was slightly worried that he wasn’t serious about me

WHAT HE SAID:

Easy lang kayo, ma’am. Kapag sa tingin mo hindi siya seryoso, baka masasaktan lang kayo. Dahan-dahan lang, ma’am. Baka pa-sweet lang siya ngayon. Siguraduhin mo na aalagaan ka niya. Na hindi ka lang pampalipas-oras. Yung ibang lalaki kasi… Alam mo ‘yan, siguro, ma’am. Minsan hindi seryoso. Easy lang, ma’am. Enjoy mo ‘yan pero easy lang.

WHAT I SAID: I’ll be careful, kuya.

5. “Two-way ang isang relasyon, hindi dapat ikaw lang ang bigay nang bigay.”

WHEN: October 2018, dating aforementioned crush

WHERE: On my way to Makati from home

WHY WAS I CRYING: I was getting routinely ghosted, left hanging, and wouldn’t hear from him for days

WHAT HE SAID:

Hayaan mo ‘yan. Nasanay lang siya na ikaw ang lumalapit. Di ba, ma’am, sabi mo ikaw na lang lagi yung nag-uumpisa ng mga usapan ninyo? Tapos nagagalit pa siya? Naku, ma’am, di dapat ganyan. Two-way ang isang relasyon, hindi dapat ikaw lang ang bigay nang bigay. At kitang-kita na pagod na pagod ka na, ma’am. Nakakabastos din yung magagalit pa siya kapag gusto mo lang malaman kung okay lang siya. You deserve better, ma’am.

WHAT I SAID: Cried.

6. “Siya yung may kasalanan kasi siya yung nang-iwan nang walang dahilan, hindi ikaw. Bubuo rin ulit ang puso niyo.

WHEN: November 2018

WHERE: Quezon City to home

WHY WAS I CRYING: He broke it off, I was crying hysterically

WHAT HE SAID:

Ma’am, huwag mo nang tanungin kung kasalanan mo. Sa tingin ko, wala kang mali. Ikaw na nga lang yung bumibigay, eh, tapos lalayas lang siya? Siya yung duwag. Siya yung may kasalanan kasi siya yung nang-iwan nang walang dahilan, hindi ikaw. Bubuo rin ulit ang puso niyo, ma’am. Magdasal ka na lang.

WHAT I SAID: See gif below.

7. “Huwag mong ipasa yung sakit na nararamdaman mo sa ibang tao.”

WHEN: End of November 2018, 2 weeks after the break

WHERE: Quezon city to home

WHY WAS I CRYING: Found out he cut me off his social media, too

WHAT HE SAID:

Ma’am… On behalf of all men, sorry talaga. Kawawa naman po kayo. Nakakalito nga ‘yun. Yung gusto niya raw bumalik sa pagiging kaibigan ta’s ‘yan ang gagawin niya sa’yo? Siya yung mali, siya yung magulo. Pero ma’am, kahit masakit, huwag mong ipasa yung sakit na nararamdaman mo sa ibang tao. Kahit gaanong kasakit ngayon, huwag mong ibigay yung sakit sa iba. Dadating din ang araw na hindi ka na iiyak nang ganito. Magmahal ka pa rin.

WHAT I SAID: Just kinda quietly cried some more, really

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