The scary thing about cheating is that it can happen to anyone. You can be together for a month or a decade and your partner can cheat on you. You can be the most beautiful, the most intelligent, and your partner can still find someone he or she thinks is better. No relationship is secure from this. There is a saying that follows everyone who has been accused of taking on a side chick or dude. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Is this a fair assessment? And more importantly, is it true?
A lot of people say it is. They say that a person who has cheated will always have the capability to find another lover, because they’ve done it already. And if they can’t be satisfied with what they have, chances are, they won’t be happy with what they have next.
This is a fair way of thinking, especially if it’s you who’s been cheated on and your partner now wants to get back with you. How can you trust a person who lied to you and flirted or slept with someone else while you were together? While it is possible that they have changed and realized their mistake, paranoia can still set in.
On the other hand, there are those who believe that a tiger can change its stripes. These people believe that a person cheated because they weren’t happy in the relationship they were in, but can find happiness in another person’s company. There’s also a degree of truth to this. A guy can be unhappy with his boring girlfriend, but can find satisfaction when he meets someone more exciting. Sadly, we admit this is easier if you were not the one cheated on and you’re dating this person after his or her infidelity.
Either way, cheating is a dick move and must never be tolerated. If you begin to feel the onset of temptation, or if you’re starting to develop feelings for someone who is not your partner, it’s best to just forget these feelings. If you can’t, just break up with your partner and get together with the new person. Sure, it’s going to look bad but it’s not as cruel as leading someone on.
The question now is, do cheaters deserve a second chance? That depends. On you. No one can really say this expect the person who has to deal with someone who cheated. It’s up to you if you believe the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater.”
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