How to Find Love: Life Lessons from Manila Relationship Coach and Love Guru Aileen Santos


When In Manila, it’s always a great idea to surround yourself with great people while finding ways to enhance your knowledge or experience to better help you succeed in your life. In short, it’s time for you to take some fun classes!


Try to find classes or workshops that will help you better yourself or, as I’ll be recommending in this post, find classes that will help you in understanding the differences between men and women so you can unlock the so-called complexities of romantic relationships.


Love and relationship guru Aileen Santos recently held the ‘Fabulously Feminine 4’ where she dished out important lessons in finding love and keeping it forever.




While some women may complain of being a prisoner in their own marriage, others lament their inability to find love especially those who belong to the No Boyfriend Since Birth (NBSB) circle.


Women ‘need to expose themselves to more men’ to be able to find the good ones, Santos said during the seminar.


Santos encouraged the participants to do away with skepticism and believe that good men still abound.


“If you want a relationship with a good man, you have to believe that men are good,” Santos said.




Here’s some really interesting points I learned about finding your perfect mate:


Santos said that many women harbor the so-called “Little girls’ wounds.” These are the messages that become barriers in finding love: “You are unworthy”, “You don’t deserve”, “You are powerless”, “You have no value”, “You are not lovable”, and “You are bad”.


“Decide to set yourself free,” she said. “Accept the past as is, learn its valuable lessons, let the old title go and choose to define yourself in a different way now.”


“A lot of women don’t know how to receive love…look at the way you receive compliments…Believe it and accept it. A compliment is a gift,” Santos said.


In the seminar, relationship coach Christian Doroin added a few pointers for the men, he revealed the main fear for most men, which is the fear of failure. He said failure also wounds men’s hearts which makes them afraid of failing all over again.


“In the Philippines, most women wait for the right guy. You just wait. Unlike us, we do the courting. You don’t fail while many men fail…we try, we fail until someone actually says ‘yes’,” Doroin said. “We often ask a lot of questions because we are afraid of you,” he said.


“In failed relationships, most women will accept the blame. But for men, it’s more of thinking ‘what did I not do’ rather than what did I do,” he added.


Santos, shares the stages of attraction and love that begins with generating interest; turning the interest into attraction; growing the attraction into a potential relationship; leading the potential into a relationship; bringing the relationship into a commitment and building the ‘happily ever after’ stage one day at a time.



I really ended up taking a very personal journey in this class that really made a lot of sense for me. I’m now confident that I can apply a lot of Aileen’s lessons in my own life, both in general and also when it comes to relationships. I learned a lot about men, women and myself. I’m sure you’ll enjoy and be enlightened by this class as well and highly recommend it to anyone out there, from single women to moms who have been married for 30 years just looking for more answers. Aileen Santos is the relationship coach that you need to meet! 


When In Manila, why not open your eyes and your mind to new lessons that will help you with your love life and your personal life as well! Come take some self-enriching classes with Relationship Coach Aileen Santos today! 


To find out more about Aileen Santos’ upcoming workshops, visit



How to Find Love: Life Lessons from Manila Relationship Coach and Love Guru Aileen Santos



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