Erwan Heussaff recently shared to couples pretty memorable advice on how to have a lasting, loving relationship, after he received plenty of queries asking how he and wife Anne Curtis-Smith are able to handle being so far apart on most days. He simply said, “Don’t be a suman.”
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Excited to see this lady today. We haven’t seen each other in 23 days! I always get messages about why we’re not constantly together. It’s because Rule #78 of the #bulliedhusbandsclub handbooks states that serious couples need to be able to support each other regardless of distance and schedules. Both people in a relationship need to be able to grow and pursue their careers, all while being each other’s cheerleaders. I’ve seen way too many toxic relationships where people end up blaming the other party for missed opportunities. Macho men, your wife deserves to chase their dreams as much as you do. Ladies, vice versa. Just make time and be present, whenever you can. Food analogy: be like basmati rice grains, fluffy and free. Dont be a Suman. Edit: people tagging their partners telling them #dontbeasuman good luck with that conversation later tonight.
Macho men, your wife deserves to chase their dreams as much as you do. Ladies, vice versa. Just make time and be present, whenever you can.
Food analogy: be like basmati rice grains, fluffy and free. Dont be a Suman.
We asked Anne what she thought about his advice and whether she had anything to add to it. While she believes Erwan gave fantastic advice, she has her own take on the matter. “You know, I think it’s okay to be suman once in a while,” she said.
“I think, especially now when everyone is very hardworking and very career-driven, I believe that you shouldn’t be holding your partner back when it comes to pursuing their dreams. Instead, as Erwan said, be their cheerleader. But that doesn’t mean you [don’t have to be] a suman!”
The It’s Showtime host believes that balance is key to a successful relationship—being able to let each other grow as separate individuals, but also indulging in one’s desire to be physically together. “There’s a time to be suman and there’s a time to be basmati rice. As they say, eh: everything in moderation.”
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